The interaction of SIRPα with CD47 represents a major mechanism for preventing macrophage phagocytosis. However, CD47-independent mechanisms are poorly defined. Here, we report a critical role of SLAM family receptors (SFRs), ubiquitously expressed on hematopoietic cells and forming homotypic interactions, in constraining macrophage phagocytosis. We found that SFR deficiency triggered macrophage phagocytosis of hematopoietic cells, leading to severe rejection of donor hematopoietic graft in recipient mice. Specific SFR members, mainly SLAMF3 and SLAMF4, were identified as "don't eat me" receptors on macrophages. These receptors inhibited "eat me" signals, such as LRP1-mediated activation of mTOR and Syk, through SH2 domain-containing phosphatases. SFRs combined with, but were independent of, CD47 to mitigate macrophage phagocytosis, and the combined deletion of SFRs and CD47 resulted in hematopoietic cytopenia in mice. This SFR-mediated tolerance was compromised in patients with hemophagocytic lymphohistiocytosis, a syndrome characterized by inappropriate phagocytosis toward hematopoietic cells. Loss of SFRs potently elicited macrophage rejection of hematopoietic tumors. Deletion of SFRs also significantly enhanced the phagocytosis of CD19-positive hematopoietic targets by the macrophages expressing the chimeric CD19 antigen receptor. Therefore, SFR-mediated inhibition of macrophage phagocytosis is critical to hematopoietic homeostasis, and SFRs may represent previously unknown targets for tumor immunotherapy.